I’m always thinking about relationships. (Romance writer, duh!) They come with their own list of rules, laws that are almost as unbreakable as the laws of physics. I make sure every one of my characters eventually discovers at least a few. Happy to share some with you today.
Don’t take each other for granted
Those sweet little things we do for each other help make a good relationship great. But just because he scrubs your yucky track shoes willingly doesn’t mean you don’t have to say ‘Thank You’. Gratitude feeds more kind deeds.
Apologise
Love means never having to say you’re sorry? Big stinking HA! You’re going to fight. Being able to say you’re sorry is one of the signs of a strong relationship. Bonus: make-up sex is awesome.
It takes two
We love it when our stud-muffin takes charge in bed, don’t we? But we’ve both got to work at it; we don’t get full credit just for showing up. And putting in the extra effort isn’t only about our sexytime moves. Communicating openly about our wants and needs, reading up on sex, watching erotic videos (there, I said it) helps keep sex on the front burner.
Just say it!
Say ‘I love you’ at least once a day and mean it. Say it out loud. Text it. Scrawl it on a Post-It note and stick it to his lunch. It’ll stay in his head…and yours.
Love yourself first
“Love yourself first, and everything falls into line,” said Lucille Ball. The feisty redhead was right. It’s a simple idea, and yet our minds rebel against it. We’re taught not to be selfish, to put others first. But getting rid of negativity toward yourself, nurturing yourself, demanding your rights and learning to say ‘no’ make you strong and self-confident. The kind of person who deserves to be loved.
Hit me up in the comments or by email and let me know if you agree, or if you have any more to share!